5. Develop Your Compassion

Nothing helps us build our perspective more than developing compassion
for others. Compassion is a sympathetic feeling. It involves the
willingness to put yourself in someone else's shoes, to take the focus
off yourself and to imagine what it's like to be in someone else's
predicament, and simultaneously, to feel love for that person. It's the
recognition that other people's problems, their pain and frustrations,
are every bit as real as our own - often far worse. In recognizing this
fact and trying to offer some assistance, we open our own hearts and
greatly enhance our sense of gratitude.
Compassion is something you can develop with practice. It involves two
things: intention and action. Intention simply means you remember to
open your heart to others; you expand what and who matters, from
yourself to other people. Action is simply the "what you do about it."
You might donate a little money or time (or both) on a regular basis to
a cause near to your heart. Or perhaps you'll offer a beautiful smile
and genuine "hello" to the people you meet on the street. It's not so
important what you do, just that you do something. As Mother Teresa
reminds us, "We cannot do great things on this earth. We can only do
small things with great love."
Compassion develops your sense of gratitude by taking your attention off
all the little things that most of us have learned to take too
seriously. When you take time, often, to reflect on the miracle of life
- the miracle that you are even able to read this book - the gift of
sight, of love, and all the rest, it can help to remind you that many of
the things that you think of as "big stuff" are really just "small
stuff" that you are turning into big stuff.